I feel sorry for haters
and feel sad, that they are Taiwanese
Now while I am away in Europe, I was informed, that I was attacked on a popular Taiwanese forum by a lot of people based on the post Taiwanese girls: What experts say. Someone translated this post in Chinese, probably intentionally dropped that part, where I say (in Chinese!) that I meant the complete opposite of what was written and that I disagree with all the bad things foreigners say about Taiwanese girls and portrayed me as being the same as those nasty guys. How perverted is that? I have no idea, why people do this. My sarcasm was completely disregarded or lost in translation, I suspect intentionally. One thing is not understanding something, but another one is spinning someone's intentions for a personal agenda. I am very unhappy about this. If you hate people, who have interracial relationships, please don't abuse my post for that! I wrote a follow-up post Taiwanese girls: Stereotypes and reality, where I tried to explain the whole issue from many sides. Do you know how long it took me to write these two posts? Over one week each. I tried so hard to highlight the bad reputation Taiwanese girls have with certain kinds of foreigners and at the same time tried to explain some images, that come within Taiwan and might be misrepresented by a lot of them as well. I wanted to connect all sides and give people a better understanding of Taiwan. And now Taiwanese take my words and misrepresent them, how crazy is that! Not only crazy, it's also sad. I feel stabbed in the back, because I always try hard to help you Taiwanese get a better understanding abroad. And now you are doing the same thing, just from another side: You drive stereotypes, you spread lies and hate and you attack Taiwanese girls for dating foreigners. What can I say? I feel the girls were attacked from two sides. Did they really deserve this? Who are you to judge others on the choices they make in their life? Are you perfect?
To really get to know me simply read all my posts about Taiwan. See who I really am and how I really see Taiwan and its people and you will realize that you were completely wrong about me. But if your heart is closed and hate is what drives you, then it doesn't matter, what I say or do: Your mind will not change, you will continue to write hateful things to hurt others. But this storm will pass for me and my wife, I will move on, but you will be stuck in your narrow-mindedness. I feel sorry for you.
My blog has no agenda whatsoever and I do not earn a single penny here. No adds and no traffic needed. I never seek trouble, nor do I want to be controversial or famous. But I like to share my thoughts, I like to be funny, sarcastic and insightful. I won't stop writing and speaking my mind, I love blogging and you won't shut me up. You claim untrue things about me, you think you know me based on a translated post, that didn't get the point and dropped the most important part. Is this really enough to pass your judgement on me?
Thank you to all my new readers and subscribers, who understood my original post and its intention. I'm very happy to welcome you on my blog. I think a post about "how Taiwanese see sarcasm" will be obligatory in the near future.
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15 KAFKAESQUE COMMENTS:
people are idiots, i hate when things you say are taken out of context or twisted
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November 19, 2011 5:49 AM
despite the fact that we're bother & sister, it's only now that I actually read your comment policy. after reading it, i had the urge to NOT comment because i was scared that you would definitely delete my comment if i post it. I mean, I was definitely going to (a) behave like an obsessive and immature person by writing garbage =p (read the whole lot of this comment!!) (b) write some racist remark, in association with MYSELF, because I'm funny like that, and also because I don't know why this one colleague of mine, keeps on associating me with "chinese" stuff like "i'll buy you miso soup - AT STARBUCKS!" - and actually asked them about it wth. (c) repeat same thing in my replies i.e I MISS YOU, TAI LOU!!! xD (d) write something annoyingly offtopic - like this one! durh.
oh well =) I'm oncall - and my brain's overheating from the fever, so yeah this is what you get! ..... you're getting this reply also because I haven't blogged in ages and again, *cough* Kym made a comment on it.... @.@"
but anyways, forget the haters. people who dont like you & your blogs can fuck off (3.05 hate speech - general threats) =)
love you always!
November 19, 2011 7:39 AM
Haters are stupid. That's why they hate. That's all they're good at. So don't worry. You're better than them.
November 19, 2011 9:06 AM
Fuck them losers. Your blog made me want to visit Taiwan even more than I had already wanted and I had the pleasure of meeting Mr. and Mrs. MKL in person.
November 19, 2011 10:43 AM
The way i see it, if someone is consumed with hate for you or what you write then at least they're leaving somebody else alone.
You can only put your feelings down in black & white so if they choose to misinterpret or edit those things then that's up to them.
Ignore them & let them crawl back under the rocks they came from!
November 19, 2011 7:25 PM
I find it ridiculous that some sensationalist will find it worthwhile to translate your entire (and rather long) post into Chinese just for the sake of distorting the message. Your post was funny and I realized you were making fun of the misconceptions by characteristic 3. The fact that there are people who deceive chinese-only readers by cheapening this humor is disgusting. I have found it very sad that the content I find in Chinese on the web is often less reliable and follow less ethical codes (from lack of citation to utter fabrication) than English ones. It hurts Chinese speakers to be so misled. Completely sympathize.
November 20, 2011 12:38 AM
I saw the translation of your post on the forum you mentioned. At first I was surprised and irritated. But after I finished it, I realized it was just a joke and you were trying to be sarcastic. Then I went on to read another post (Taiwanese girls: Stereotypes and reality) of you, and it amazed me how detailed you describe and try to understand Taiwanese. From a totally different perspective to approach to the real Taiwanese (especially girls) characters, I believe you made a very vivid and beautiful picture through depictions. As a Taiwanese girl, I am really appreciated your intention of changing our image in foreigner's mind.
About the translation piece on the forum, I sent a message to the translator and ask him to translate the stereotype and reality post so people won't misunderstand you. But he doesn't seem so interested in it. That translation brought scores of people to discussion. Some people who can read in English finish the reality post and do understand you're trying to be funny. The rest of them are still tricked by the limited information. But there are surely someone in this event manipulated around and created hatred between Taiwanese and foreigners by using radical and emotional words. I know you put a lot of efforts on the blog and of course wish everyone to understand and appreciate more. But some people only believe what they want to believe despite many evidences are against them. There are many people like that all around the world. So I wish you don’t take it as a Taiwanese thing and keep writing the blog. It’s a great thing you’re doing.
And there are other people on that forum trying to translate another piece of your post, so that people will understand you’re not intended to assault Taiwanese:)
November 20, 2011 8:12 PM
@Hannah: Agree.
@dolce la robyn: Haha.. Oncall makes you so cute? Can I ask your boss for more oncalls? :P You always manage to cheer me up. I miss you, too >_-
@Gnetch: Thanks.
@Tommy: Yeah.. I can't do much. Thanks man.
@AdamAntixx: You're right. It will pass. Just felt like stabbed in the back.
@Grace: Well said. Some people really have nothing better to do. Although my wife said the translation is good, but it can never fully convey the sarcasm of the original. If he used that translation to share on an very popular forum (we're talking tens of thousands people), he had the responsibility to make sure that people understand the point of my post, not just leave it there and let them trash me nonstop. He skipped the disclaimer I wrote, which I shows me that his intentions were bad.
@Sophiefisch: Thank you for your comment, it really made me feel better. My point of the post was to highlight the problem of Taiwanese girls bad reputation online and then explain it. I ridiculed the western guys' stupid claims and I thought it was obvious. Originally I thought a disclaimer won't be needed, but after a discussion with my wife, I added it, just to be safe (as I know Taiwanese might not get the sarcasm). But... I never imagined that this disclaimer will be disregarded and that the post will be taken literally and abused by haters to attack local girls, who date foreigners. That was a vicious abuse of my post and I'm really mad about it. What hurt me most, that me and my wife were attacked by the Cross-Cultural Relationship forum... Suddenly everything was my fault -_- Also keep in mind, I only collected stuff from other forums and reposted it, all this was said in the past years, not recently. It's a common phenomenon, same as the phenomenon of some Taiwanese guys disapproving relationships between Western guys and Taiwanese girls (while nobody gets really upset, if Taiwanese guys date or marry girls from outside Taiwan). I don't care being attacked by haters, they will always find reasons to do so, bit I feel sad, if normal goodhearted people get misled and angry and attack me. Besides, I originally planned to write 1 post, but since it was so long, I split in 2. Both posts are part of a series about Taiwanese girls and I hoped I could write some more in the future. But now I'm not sure, if I will write more about this...
I hope that, if in future someone translates my posts, they put them into the right perspective. This sarcastic way of writing is not my common style, but I thought it was a good idea. Obviously, it was not... You can check my Visit Taipei post, which my wife translated in Chinese, but main post is in English. It's still one of the most googled posts and I get tons of emails from foreigners, who thank me for writing it. A post, that could have a translation, could be Everything about a Taiwanese wedding, but it's actually intended for foreigners, I think Taiwanese know all this very well. Of course there are tons of other posts as well, I have nearly 400 about Taiwan only... All written within the past 2 years. Thanks again for your comment.
November 20, 2011 9:47 PM
Personally i think 'haters' are divided into 2 sets : those who are jealous and those who are just plain stupid!
You've been getting lots of hits and your popularity has soared becos of your great posts so sadly you have to expect those who are jealous of all your success to start hating. Chin up babes....the more haters you have, it means you're more popular and loved by others *wink*
November 21, 2011 12:45 PM
Wouldn't let it worry you, or stop you from writing similar posts in the future. One of my posts comparing Japan and China (not always to Japan's advantage) was translated into Japanese by someone on 2 Channel, and then followed by hundreds of comments accusing me of being Korean. Such is life . . .
November 22, 2011 2:55 PM
Apprently they just either not read through your post or just cut off your last fine printed line. :T those haters. I know you love Lily : ) and that' why when I read the beginning I knew you were joking haha
November 22, 2011 6:29 PM
I saw a discussion to your two posts on another "board" of the forum. Thank you for posting such an amusing sarcasm and a detailed observation on Taiwanese girls, they are really inspiring to me as a Taiwanese girl.
Sometimes I really think the haters, mostly Taiwanese heterosexual single young males, are good objects for research. They view Taiwanese girls with more stereotypes than those foreign EXPERTS. They impute their frustration with girls to "Taiwanese girls' adoration to white guys". They believe, well, foreigners are sexually better than themselves. They use very irritating words to blame on women who dated/are dating foreigners.
They think all the sarcasm to girls are serious and fair but all the sarcasm to guys are simply jokes.
So please don't be sad. They are pathetic, only know how to attack others in the virtual world. Never waste time to mind the stupid racists or chauvinists. I enjoy reading your posts, and hope there will be more. Looking forward to your post about sarcasm! :P
November 23, 2011 1:22 AM
you sure told them! I've come to realize that some people will try their best to tear you down even for no reason at all. Dont allow them to get you upset for too long and keep on blogging on! :D
November 25, 2011 4:47 AM
Nino, I'm sorry you have these encounter these spiteful people who run on negativity and jealousy. I think a post on how Taiwanese see sarcasm is due as well.. but of course it may offend even more because everyone will be in denial. You've done your part to try to salvage the original meaning of your post, so it's probably best to leave that behind- the people who are close minded will always be close minded, they are not worth it. Glad you are safely back from your trip in Europe though :)
December 3, 2011 4:33 AM
Thanks guys for your support.
December 29, 2011 10:37 PM
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