Another day lost
But I have to keep going...
Today I made a mistake and couldn't get a document. I lost a day, some money and I was home late, but most of all I was almost losing my nerves, I was holding back tears. When I came home, I was so beat up, I just fell into bed and had to take a nap. I couldn't chat with my girlfriend. I felt terribly sorry. It's always hard for me to miss a chat session with her, because I miss her every day. I missed her a lot today, but I was so weak. Tomorrow I need to try my luck again. Guess I will be very busy this month, but I can't help it. I underestimated the time and cost of this dance with the bureaucracy. Frankly, I'm a bit scared now, because almost every week I get some new information or someone tells me I have to come another day or go to a different office. It sucks. But I'm focused on her, I want to be with her as soon as possible. I'm looking forward to Friday, they say we'll have sunny 11 degrees. And another busy week will be over, I can finally sleep longer and get some rest. Wish me luck.
30 KAFKAESQUE COMMENTS:
Having migrated to be with my husband I can completely empathize with you regarding the bureaucracy and tons of paperwork. You'll be on an emotional roller coaster but it will be worth it in the end, don't worry. Good luck!
January 12, 2011 6:58 AM
Oh dear.. sounds like you are going through some really stressful situations. Hang in there and good luck Nino, you'll make it!!
January 12, 2011 1:44 PM
I'm sorry to hear about your lost. I know you did all theses because of love and I know you will overcome it. Those paperwork stuff takes alot time and effort and also depend on the person who handles your paperwork or case. I really wish you the best of luck. Just think that soon you'll be holding her hand and walking down the street in Taipei and having those ice stuff with her soon. Again Best luck to you.
January 12, 2011 1:57 PM
Stick at it mate, it'll be worth it in the end.
I can only imagine the headaches that await me if I ever want to apply for permanent residency here.
January 12, 2011 5:31 PM
Fight one more round! Keeping my fingers and toes crossed for you and everything gonna be alright.
January 12, 2011 8:50 PM
Dude. I'm sure you can do it. You'll get the documents and you'll accomplish whatever it is you're working on.
And I'm sure your girlfriend misses you too.
January 12, 2011 9:45 PM
Amigo, do not be unhappy. It's a lot of work and frustration but the goal is well worth it! :)
Take it easy and rest a while. Once rested you will have a clear head to face the bureaucrats and with you determination of steel, I'm sure obstacles will be more easier to you.
小小苦楚等於激勵 等於苦海翻細浪
藉著毅力 恃我志氣 總要步步前望。
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eqpRdCQcMIc
：）
And when you're done, you can blog all about it! I'm sure there are a lot of folks out there who may face the similar problems, but are unsure of how to go about it. Yey!
January 13, 2011 4:29 AM
@Andrea: Thank you. Means a lot to me :)
@Karen: Thank you. I'll be strong.
@Sarah: Thank you. It's tedious and bothersome, but yeah, I need to work hard, cuz I wanna be with the woman I love in the country I love :)
@OzSoapbox: Thank you. I'll stick it up :)
@Bananazஇ: Thank you, xie xie, terima kasih :)
@Gnetch: Thank youuuuu :)
January 13, 2011 4:29 AM
@LaiSan: Thank you so much for your encouragement, my friend :) I am a bit tired today, but I finally have all documents. Now need some translations and then I'm half way thru. I do plan to blog about it.
January 13, 2011 4:32 AM
See, half way there, not so bad eh? And looking back on the obstacles you've conquered, to get this far feels good right? :)
It is the same feeling as when me & my man go hiking. It's a struggle along the way, but upon reaching the summit and looking back at the trecherous path, great sense of achievement. Nothing can beat that feeling!
K, it may be a little different to you-only because you get to the summit and be with Lily and everything is coming up roses (WoooHooo); whilst we, on the other hand, our time at the summit is short lived and we need to work out how the heck we descend. ;p
January 13, 2011 4:40 AM
@LaiSan: Hehe.. very well said. But believe me, once you're married, you're descending and you it's a very long and slow walk down and you have to be careful not to trip or succumb to temptation ;)
January 13, 2011 5:07 AM
*sigh* i know what it's like to have everyone giving you different information... it seriously makes you crazy!!! but like you said - FOCUS ON HER! Eyes on the prize! :P It'll all be figured out before you know it...
January 13, 2011 6:59 AM
Head up, MKL, and don't let the bureaucracy to beat you! We are with you and Lily. I am so used with these kind of stupid things, so I am not amazed at all. But I recognize it may be very nerve consuming. Resist and you will prevail.
January 13, 2011 7:44 AM
I think you should see the head of the department and once and for all give you the exact instructions.
Be patience I am guessing not every day they have an application to request stay in Taiwan. Perhaps these people are as confused as every body else or perhaps they are just couldn't bother your time and money lost while they tried to finish their work that pile up back of their ass.
I recommend you to see their superior because you have been on and off the office and nothing gets done.
Good luck bro and I am sure Lily understand why you're not calling :) and you have to hanging there.. it's okay to ermmm not talking for a day (I BS LOL) just don't make it a habit ROFL
January 13, 2011 9:34 AM
加油！
* A pat on your shoulder *
January 13, 2011 11:54 AM
wow it sounds tiring :( hang in there buddy, the sun will shine soon enough and all the pieces will fall in the right places where they belong :)
Just stay focused :)
January 13, 2011 3:55 PM
It's always so troublesome to get documents or verification from government offices, sometimes I wonder why we pay tax to these people? They really don't have the concept of being efficient. But I know we can pass the challenges, because our love and beliefs. I know it would be complicated to apply to stay here permanently as well, but we solve these tough issues one by one, and hand in hand. We can do it. Jia you!
January 13, 2011 6:23 PM
Your determination will turn the bleakest day to sunshine!
Someday you will be holding Lily's hand walking down the beach, justifying how much it is worth to go through the hassle.
Go go Nino!
January 13, 2011 9:52 PM
Hope everything goes smooth for u, most imptly.. Take gd care! :)
January 13, 2011 10:11 PM
Thank you, my friends for all the kind words of encouragements. That keeps me going. Tomorrow I have another meeting with the translator... Hope everything goes well :)
January 14, 2011 7:23 AM
I'll kepp my fingers crossed!
January 15, 2011 2:43 AM
Good luck! Yeah, government bureaucracy sucks :(
January 15, 2011 12:26 PM
@Traveling Hawk: Thanks.
@Envoy:Thank you.
January 15, 2011 6:47 PM
Awww I wish I could give you a hug. You sounded so stressed out and a bit helpless with this post :( I haven't moved to another country before so I don't know how tough it is myself, but I can imagine it is. I hope things go a bit smoothly for you hereon in.
January 18, 2011 4:08 AM
Dai! Forza! Adesso vai piu vicino da Lily. Giusto~
Ne vale la pena~!!!! ;-)
E' normale che hai un po' paura quando qualcuno va estero per la vita nuova. Pero' sarano tutte esperienze nuove e intersanti~
In bocca a lupo~
January 19, 2011 4:04 AM
@Karen: Yes, I was stressed, but it's ok. Some have it worse, so should be ok now. The worst is over (so I hope). Thanks for your encouragements.
@Hipper: Thank you. I'm almost there :)
January 19, 2011 5:25 AM
:(
Good luck...
"No day is so bad it can't be fixed with a nap"
Stay strong, Nino!
January 19, 2011 4:52 PM
@*~kAy~*: Hehe.. thank you :)
January 20, 2011 3:06 AM
And i ask why wouldnt it be tough to immigrate to new country? once ur married, you'll have same rights as the citizens, you should understand that.
Good luck though, it aint easy even though its not that difficult. I received resident visas to sgr, tw and states. my trick? always gotta good reason to live there. study, work, start a small biz... but to get married? C'mon, anybody can do that, it's only natural government is gonna check ya thoroughly, i know all about this via my friend from NIA in Taiwan.
There are many filipinos, thais, vietnamese marrying taiwan guys and europeans marrying taiwan women because they can't get work permit as simple as that. there's so much fraud there, i see it everyday. you'll be lucky to get work permit in tw. many people dont get it til after proving they lived in country for six years like my ex-gf's mother in law.
i see you aint liking negative comments but i thought i let every1 know how to process really works.
Good luck to you.
p.s. resident study visa or visitor (employment, tourist) visa would be much easier to receive and it can be turned into work permit without leaving tw. just an advice mate. ;)
January 24, 2011 11:48 PM
@Anonymous: My reason of course tells me it should be hard to obtain the documents, but when you're in the process, you get frustrated, it's only human. Sure there are people who have it worse, but in that moment, when you go to an office for the 2nd time and don't get it, you just feel stressed out.
Who likes negative comments anyway? But I don't take yours as negative. Thanks for sharing your opinion. :)
January 24, 2011 11:55 PM
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