Thoughts of the moment
Thought one: Why do so many new followers of my blog think I was female? Maybe because I follow mostly women and get along well with women, adore women, post many pics of women, write about women, chat on MSN with many women... Maybe :P
Thought two: Why do some people write whole essays with links and quotes, when they comment, just to state their opinion prove they're right? I think it's no point to that, unless we're talking about facts, not opinions. But some people are obsessed and don't stop, even ridicule you, just to feel superior. Oh dear, do you know how I can laugh about people like you? :P
Thought three: Is it possible, that a friend, to whom I've slowly distanced myself this year would make up a fake break up just to lure me to call him and meet him? I was a long and loyal friend until half a year ago, where he behaved like he's my father and lectured me. From that time on I ignored him. And now few days ago, his girlfriend texted me and begged me to call him, cuz they supposedly broke up and he's devastated and in need of a friend. I asked her to write an email and tell me what exactly happened. Few days later: Nothing. [Weird.] Something smells fishy. :(
Thought four: How come anticipating a birthday is such a thrill, but after you say happy birthday at the actual day, the whole thrill is gone? So many people close to me had birthdays and it was really a very interesting time. But now that it's passed, I feel so empty. I guess it's same when people, who celebrate Christmas (I'm not), anticipate that day. But a day after boredom sinks in and the chocolate Santa doesn't taste as good as a day before. Weird. -_-
Thought five: Is it possible to adore someone and be totally crazy about them, yet still have reasonable expectations? Well, I think it's possible, but it's a fine line to walk. In the past, I would adore someone for the wrong reasons. Now, around age 30, I feel I know what I really want: I realized that I really need someone who's character suits me well, who shares similar views, dreams and expectations for the future and who's mellow, easygoing and flexible like me. I had complicated, I had inflexible, I had partners with too different views, dreams and expectations... They were all incredible women, but we were just too different. Now it seems I found someone who suits me well and the question I asked 6 month ago here may be finally answered. And yes, I adore her for who she is, not what I think she might be. :)
Please choose one or more topics and leave a comment. As always I really appreciate your opinions and I'm very happy to see you always return to my little online getaway. Thank you!



19 KAFKAESQUE COMMENTS:
uh... I did kinda think you were a girl, the first time I was on your blog, but then I read the ones about hot girls and all... haha!
AND who does that? commenting with quotes and links?! It's just about your own opinion right, who cares whether you're right or wrong? What an effort just to comment...
slap me if you catch me do that :P
loves
November 20, 2009 5:41 AM
thought 5 is definitely possible. i believe i have reasonable expectations right now with someone (or, no expectations.. its better).
November 20, 2009 5:52 AM
Shirley
Hehe.. that's ok. I think most personal bloggers are girls, while guys are political and tech bloggers. So you probably saw me commenting among a bunch of girls :P
Well, some people really take commenting very seriously, haha, like here on my blog :P I don't slap fairies, sorry ;)
floreta
Oh, that's good. I really hope both of us will find someone like that, I'm confident. We both grew this year, right? I think so :)
November 20, 2009 5:59 AM
You're softspoken and sensitive, I think that's nice. Nothing's wrong with that, I thought you're a woman too at first, right? Sorry about that.
But wow, finding the right woman, this sounds serious. Good fot you!
November 20, 2009 9:08 AM
Re @ Thought One: I don't know about the others but the reason why I thought you were female at first was because of the head banner you have on your blog. I figured the girl in the banner was you, LOL.
Re @ Thought Two: The thing is most people believe that their opinion IS fact. So they throw tons of evidence at their opponent just to prove that their opinion isn't just an opinion, that it's fact.
Re @ Thought Three: It's certainly possible, although I don't understand why anyone would go through the trouble of doing that unless they're really a loner or something.
Re @ Thought Four: Because as humans, we always look forward to some things (or some events) to make our lives less dull. And as humans, we easily get bored of things once we have them or once they've passed. It's in our nature.
Re @ Thought Five: Can't say I can really relate to you on this since I stopped being into relationships once I was out of high school. But I guess if you truly love that person, then why wouldn't you have reasonable expectations from them? After all, don't you like the person for who she is right now? Isn't that why you like her in the first place? So if you truly like the person's personality, then of course it's possible for you to have reasonable expectations from them.
November 20, 2009 11:04 AM
#1 - I always knew you were a dude. Seen ur avatar pic. Plus the way you articulate your posts is not really female-like.
#2 - Kiasu mentality.
#3 - It does seem suspicious. Just send him a remedy of case of beer for the supposed 'heartbreak'. Heh...
#4 - That's why surprise bday parties put the anticipation and fun back into the day. :D
#5 - It's only human. You're being reasonable but I think that if you're partner's too similar to you then it could get boring.
TGIF to you and cheers ;)
November 20, 2009 12:26 PM
*blush*
I thought you were a girl too when I first came across your blog. But while reading some of your posts, I realized I got it all wrong and you were actually a guy! XD
Once I almost thought that this girl on your blog header was you! o_O
Ok you can laugh at me for that! :p
November 20, 2009 3:23 PM
Thought 1:
I agree with sushilover-jin on why I thought you were a girl. Are you sure you aren't that hot babe?
Thought 2:
We act superior online because we suck in real-life. Period.
Thought 3:
Weird. My guess is that the gal is just too lazy to explain the whole break-up story, especially i it doesn't particularly reflect very well on her.
Thought 4:
When I was still single and unattached, I felt empty ever so often. Get the hint?
Thought 5:
Know that you are full of imperfections, and then narrow down your expectations. From experience, it's ok to have different hobbies and interest. But it helps ALOT if both parties have a similar way of handling bigger problems in life.
Had fun reading your thoughts. ^_^
November 20, 2009 4:17 PM
I knew you were a guy the first time you commented on my blog :)
How did you first stumble upon my blog anyways :P?
November 20, 2009 6:29 PM
Wow, guys, I appreciate your comments. :-) I won't go into all of your points, but it's certainly useful to me :-)
Andhari
Well, shall see how it goes. It's still at an early stage, but it is serious, yes. Although we mostly laugh and have fun :)
Van
Thank you for replying to all my points :) The last point was meant that you can be reasonable and crazy about someone at the same time. You know sometimes we tend to paint an exaggerated picture of someone which makes the person who they are not. I try to avoid that :)
Pinkpurplelizard
I think better to have many things in common than being too different. Been there, it didn't work :)
Angele
Dear, that hot babe on my header is Lee Hyo-ri, Korean superstar, haha. I'd be here instantly, if that's possible, haha - but no, I'm just a guy :P
Shingo T
Read previous comment regarding my header pic :P As always, I agree with you on all of your points. Thanks for liking it and commenting :)
November 20, 2009 6:35 PM
The Envoy
Haha.. I remember clearly how I found you. I saw you comment on ReallyCuteAsians and clicked on your name :P
November 20, 2009 6:37 PM
Hey!
I totally agree with thought #5... I love the way you put it. Indeed it is hard to love a person like crazy, and at the same time have reasonable expectations... It's like a huge sacrifice to make, to lower expectations and accept things as they are!
As for thought #3, STRANGE!! I guess that person is just trying hard to get your attention... Oh well...
Great post all in all, I enjoyed reading :)
November 21, 2009 11:02 AM
...you woman, I didn't think that, but the I read it ahead, so there was no guessing for me, lol.
About your thought 5, the best thing is that you find woman that is same, but similar, and the most important to respect each other views, goals and everything else. Life is much more interesting that way. Its all about letting go, and exploring each others views.
...not going to write a whole essay here, lol, with links to proof my point, but I thought I add few cents to the bucket.
Thanks for sharing your interesting thoughts.
Anna :)
November 21, 2009 1:08 PM
Is that Lee Hyo-ri? o_O Omg! I didn't recognize her! Hahaha :P But hey, I was reading some of the comments above and looks like I wasn't the only one thinking you were the girl on the head banner XD
November 21, 2009 2:39 PM
#1
i always knew you were a guy ;P ain't i awesome haha
#2
some ppl have no lives, and way too much free time i guess. that sort of affects their brains
#3
maybe he's desperate for a friend? that sounds pretty sad
#4
i can't identify with this, coz i live in a perpetual bubble of excitement. i stay psyched abt my birthday and xmas even after they've passed. i'm weird hahaah
#5
i think the most important thins is that you're happy together. the rest like expectations, dreams etc, will follow
November 21, 2009 6:06 PM
Techna
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I appreciate it a lot :) And I agree with you.
Anna
Thank you so much and you are right. You put it very nicely :)
Angele
Yes, that's Hyori :-D and no, you're not the 1st who thought I was a girl :-( Hehe.. but nevermind :P
Manju
#1 You are awesome!
#2 I agree.
#3 Maybe. But the joke is, he had like 50 friends in his hometown, while I only had few. I wonder where are they gone? O_o
#4 Any space in your bubble? :P
#5 Simple but true :-)
November 21, 2009 6:45 PM
Thought #3 - are you sure that friend of yours isn't gay? :o)
November 22, 2009 12:44 PM
Hahahah @ #4. I'm not like that, though. Special people in my life get week-long birthday celebrations, and every day is still as crazy. lol.
November 22, 2009 3:44 PM
Ai Shang
I'm most positive, he's got a girl for 8 years now and he's not really pro-gay :)
Nashe
That's great to hear and must be a lot of fun :)
November 22, 2009 5:57 PM
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