Invest in human relations
*Here's a thought I had yesterday. It was part of a long email, so I'm sharing the best part here.
Our lives are short, if you think well. Becoming 30 for me seemed so fast. And I feel 40, 50, 60 will arrive quite as fast, too. Life is short, that's why we need to make the best of it. Maybe a young soul searches, we all search at one point of our lives, but when we find what we were looking for, we have to cherish it. Nothing in this world can be taken for granted. One day you are happy, the next day you can be miserable. People get born, people die. Sometimes I think I must do something extrordinary in life. In the end all the material things fade away, what remains are human relations - bonds between lovers, parents, friends... I have so much to give, so many people to meet, so much to learn. I hope my life will be long enough. I cherish human relations the most in this world. I don't want to be remembered by what kind of car I drove or how big my house was, I want to be remembered as a nice person, as someone who will be missed for who he was: A giving person, a listener, a loyal friend, a good husband, a loving father. These are my goals in life. I do need to have enough resources to take care for me and my future family, of course. But accumulating wealth won't be the most important thing in my life. I will invest in relations. I will build up strong relationships, spread love, be positive. I may not succeed always, but I will learn and hopefully mature in my life.[Photo by Adrienne L. Malohne: Source]
20 KAFKAESQUE COMMENTS:
now you make me wanna go and find my missing soulmate, get married and have kids.
esp the having kids part. i suddenly feel baby boys are extremely cute. ya know those age around one year old.
argh no nino!!!!!!!!!!!! look what you've done!
October 26, 2009 10:43 PM
Girl in stiletto
Oh my.. I didn't know this post would bring up these kinds of feelings in you, hehe...
October 26, 2009 10:53 PM
Very meaningful entry you have here.
Life is definitely short.
And we should always do things that we will not regret in the end.
October 27, 2009 9:11 AM
don't worry, you're already almost there :) i'm sure you have made quite an impact in some ppl's life :) go figure!
October 27, 2009 9:28 AM
Feeling melancholic?
October 27, 2009 12:57 PM
Erny
Thanks, we completely agree :)
Sharon
Awww, thanks. I hope I did and hope it was positive :)
Karen
Not at all :) Just had a stream of thoughts pouring out of me, that's all :)
October 27, 2009 7:21 PM
The irony of things is:
1. When you are alone, you long for company.
2. When you are always surrounded by people, you long for solitude.
The human heart is such a fickle thing.
October 27, 2009 7:52 PM
what a great post. It really has me thinking about what are the most important things in life. thanks for reminding me about what really counts. =)
October 27, 2009 8:10 PM
Envoy
Good point.
Mel
We need to remind ourselves about that from time to time, right? :)
October 27, 2009 8:24 PM
I just have a sentence for everything you do in life : make it counts.
even if it's just napping and enjoying your time off. Make it counts.:)
October 28, 2009 1:32 AM
Andhari
Thanks. I'll try my best :)
October 28, 2009 1:40 AM
have fun and be nice - my motto in life, simple isn't it? haha
this post is a good reminder for ppl that human relationships holds far more value than their materialistic possessions. Deeeeeeeeeep stuff ^^
Don't mind my weird post, i'm pmsing and i do that quite insanely smtimes, looks like i'm even pmsing in my dreams now sheeeshhh >_<
yes yes yesssss! postcard swap! postcard swap! postcard swap! :D
October 28, 2009 2:50 AM
you know what, let's do this in 1 month, and i can throw in a xmas card as well :D
October 28, 2009 2:51 AM
Manju
Hahaha... ok, ok... you are really funny. Would love you to PMS all the time, then I will get funny comments like this one, hehe :P Well, sure, we have time, I will email you and we discuss the postcard swap further ;)
October 28, 2009 2:58 AM
I dunno about you but I plan on living forever.
October 28, 2009 6:48 AM
Wow, that's very deep. But yeah, I get what you're saying. As a kid, I used to take everything for granted but the older I get, the more I realize how fast time goes by and the sadder I get. I don't think about it 24/7, but in the back of my mind, I always know that in the end, none of the materialistic things (like you said) nor the tons of money we make would even matter, since we're all going to die someday.
And honestly, what's even worse is that each time I find myself being very content with my life or just being very happy at the moment, something deep down reminds me that life isn't going to last and then, for a brief second, I get sad. The better my life seems to be, the sadder I get.
Therefore, I totally agree with what you said about relationships being the most important part in life...rather then how big your house is, how much money you make, whether you own private jets, etc...
Though unlike most here, getting married and having kids isn't in my plans. What I would concentrate on are my friends and family (parents and the many loving relatives that supported me in the past) since their love is unconditional and pure. And even though I'm already going it, but in the future if I do make more money, I hope to participate and donate more into charity programs. Even if those who receive it don't know who I am or don't really care, it would still be nice for me to know that I was able to make a positive difference in some people's lives. I think that, enough, would make me very happy.
October 28, 2009 7:16 AM
Van
Wow, thank you for your lovely comment. I am impressed that such a young woman like you has such a profound mind and a pure heart. We're definitely a bit alike, we're givers and deep thinkers. Even I sometimes think about everything, life in general, and I get depressed for a moment. The trick is to distract yourself all the time and just try to find happiness in the simplest things. That's how I do lately and I feel fine :-)
October 28, 2009 7:23 AM
Someone once said it doesn't matter whether a person is a CEO in his career. Because when he retires, he is just an ordinary man who will spend more time with his family and friends.
And that's where the bonds we have built over the years come in.
Invest in building strong bonds early.
October 29, 2009 12:08 PM
@ MKL, yeah, distraction's the only way to get your mind off of what's eventually going to happen to all of us. I do that too, but still, once in a while, I can't help but think about it. I'm usually as optimistic as possible, but even I can't ignore that at times.
Then again, I guess that's another reason why we should accompany ourselves with our friends and family and spend more time with them as much as possible. That's usually enough to help distract our minds from such dismal thoughts.
October 29, 2009 12:19 PM
Shingo T
Good comment, Shingo. Sometimes when I read your posts and comments on other blog, I feel we have similar thinking. You're deep and funny like me. It's great to read you. Now I made another bond :-)
Van
Yes, you are right. If you don't have these thoughts from time to time, it's also not good. Then you may appear careless and shallow. It has to be the proper dose :)
October 29, 2009 4:04 PM
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