Verbal golden shower for phony bloggers
*Bloggers. We're all self-centred sometimes. We're all full of ourselves sometimes. We all write crap sometimes. We all criticize others sometimes......but the stress is on sometimes! Heck, if you do that all the time, how can you expect people will like you or that you won't attract haters? What's the point of blogging, if you're always the greatest and everybody else is wrong? Do you think people will like to read your verbal golden showers all the time?
As personal bloggers we are seldom objective, because we don't look for the actual truth, we write from our own perspectives, which are sometimes far from the actual reality. We don't strive to be fair and balanced, why would we? Sometimes we don't reveal everything, sometimes we make ourselves look stronger, smarter, funnier - sometimes we don't want to look vulnerable. That's all fine to me, if it's just sometimes. Everybody does it from time to time. But the personal bloggers I really like and admire (Andhari, Angel, Floreta, Jerine, Nashe, Rica, Sharon and Selvy), never take themselves too seriously. I've seen them vulnerable, I've seen them being sorry, I've seen them admitting their flaws and wrongs (read their TMI Thursdays), I've seen them laugh about themselves. They are never full of themselves!
And that's the kind of bloggers I truly like and appreciate. Because I, too, am as honest as I can be on this platform: I write about my highs and lows, my desires, depressions and happy moments. I can say sorry. I do learn from my mistakes. I'm aware of the things I say and I do evolve. And that's the most important thing. All good bloggers will say: OMG, look at my first posts, how silly they were. Yea, we start randomly, scribble down few emotions and post. But we evolve and mature thru time. And that's how it's supposed to be, if you want to call yourself an adult. Online and offline.
That's why I can't stand people who are always full of themselves - people who always portray themselves as the best and whatnot and everyone else, who disagrees with them (or who even dares to criticize them), will be slammed back. You can deem yourself a celeb, a smartass or a troublemaker, but you're a #loser for me! Don't you see how insecure you really are? By criticizing everything and everyone but yourself, you want to blind yourself from your own insecurities. It's always the outside world's fault and never yours. You think you do everything perfectly and you never understand why people are the way they are and why they react the way they do. However, you are the problem, not them.
How about you do a little reflecting on your own actions sometimes?
How about saying a little genuine sorry and admiting your mistakes
from time to time? It wouldn't kill ya, would it?
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Heck, I don't care about this kind of bloggers/commentators anymore. I just don't follow them. Everyone can blog whatever they want, they can even write about me. I don't care. There will always be assholes online and offline. Best is to ignore them. Life's too short. Have you ever encountered bloggers like described here? What do you think about them?
*This is not about any of you, my bloggy friends and twiens. It was triggered by various posts I've recently read on some random blogs, but it's not directed to one person in particular. I hope it can be applicable to bloggers in general who behave the way it was described above. [Photo: Source]



20 KAFKAESQUE COMMENTS:
hehehe thanks for the mention :) i think this also reflects the 'me' in real life.. i hope! i've met those bloggers that you don't like. one of them is my ex. yes, he blogs. with a whopping 6 readers :P he even wrote an entry titled "living with (someone else's) mental illness". ultimate blame!!
September 25, 2009 10:05 PM
@floreta: Yes, I also have the feeling you're very honest. That's why I like your blog. I just wanted to see if some of you have encountered these kind of people. Apparently you did. And he's even your ex. Wow... Speechless.
September 25, 2009 10:14 PM
This is why my blog is informative. In these days people are too timid, which I mean is that I don't know people cannot accept others' idea. OK, sometimes people feels unacceptable, but it's not the good way to express his anger or uncomfortable feeling to the person whom he/she cannot understand.
September 25, 2009 11:18 PM
@Hwan: I think you have a very informative blog indeed and it's not the kind of personal blog I am talking about here. So you probably won't encounter these kind of problems. Yes, these days people should be more mindful and we'd have less problems.
September 25, 2009 11:22 PM
Are you referring to blog wars? One of the kinks in human relationships is that there will always be arguments and people refusing to back down under any circumstances. It's just a human thing, I'm afraid...
September 25, 2009 11:36 PM
@The Envoy: No, I didn't think of "blog wars", but I guess they can fit in this cathegory. I mean some bloggers in general who are so full of themselves. You know, many things are human, like stealing and violence, yet we still punish those who do that :-)
September 25, 2009 11:42 PM
I have a feeling I know who you're talking about.
September 26, 2009 1:09 AM
@Jerine: I didn't write about someone particular, but I think it can be applied to various people.
September 26, 2009 1:15 AM
Been blogging 5 years, seen all kinds. Really, these type of bloggers aren't so far removed from their real personalities offline.
September 26, 2009 3:28 AM
@Nashe^: I believe you, you have a lot of experience. Thanks for the feedback. :)
September 26, 2009 3:31 AM
cyber space is not so different from the world space we inhabit, with weaknessess and strengths of all sorts. We have a saying; "it would be boring if we were all the same". It is as well that there are differences.
:)
September 26, 2009 5:50 AM
@ZACL: Haha, good response! Yes, one can see it that way, of course. I just absorbed too much of this nonsense on various blogs/tweets and had to write this off my chest.
At least it never gets boring, hehe. :)
September 26, 2009 5:53 AM
But I thought the world revolves around me. =(
But ya, I dislike people who imposes their opinions on other people and then condemns them.
Who are we to throw stones, when we are all sinners ourselves?
September 26, 2009 11:18 AM
Woooooo ... I can sense a very strong-filled emotion on this post, Lil'Bro.
But anyway, says Ralph Waldo Emerson, "One man's justice is another's injustice; one man's beauty another's ugliness; one man's wisdom another's folly." So, as not to affect our positive outlook, let's just take in what is useful and throw out what's crap. Don't need to burn bridges.
This post is really an eye-opener for me. Now I'd better review my writing and hope I don't fall into this league. Good reminder. Thanks.
September 26, 2009 12:46 PM
Can you just link me to this blogger?
and LOL I'd like to think it's me who said that "look at my first post and how silly it was" lol
self absorbed bloggers are so many out there. That's the case with many celebrity bloggers I know. Never comment back, never check you out back, always do AHMAHZING things with their little cliques cuz other bloggers can never be as cool as they are. Blah.:P
September 26, 2009 1:24 PM
@Shingo T: Yea, world revolves around us all the time, but I'm sure you're someone who can reflect on your own words and actions.
@Wenny: Ah, maybe it came across stronger as I meant to. Please, you don't need to review anything, you're so faaaaar from that cathegory. Please, big sis ;-) No worries :-)
@Andhari: As I mentioned, it's not one particular blogger, but more of them. Some I know from before, some I've stumbled upon thru blog-hopping :-)
Haha, yes, you said that about the 1st posts and it made me think ;-) As for celeb bloggers, some are still grounded and some are up in the clouds. Usually the ones with the seemingly biggest ego are the most insecure ones.
September 26, 2009 5:40 PM
Yes, I have encountered many bloggers like that and I would like to call them SFOT (So full of themselves). I can name a few bloggers whom I believe you and I, MKL, both know. But I won't mention them.
I guess the followers can decide for themselves. Bloggers who are SFOT will have some following, of course, but it's not the kind of following that will ultimately translate into friendships.
September 28, 2009 9:06 PM
@The Demigoddess: You are right, there's many out there. Maybe we can gossip about them on MSN some time ;) Well, I prefer the second breed of bloggers, those who are honest, vulnerable, admit mistakes and like to make friends.
September 28, 2009 10:37 PM
i know what u mean..... and i admit im one like that some of the time. LOL.
September 30, 2009 1:01 AM
@Eccentrically Introverted: Hehe.. I said we're all like that sometimes. That's no problem :) Just some people overdo it and have no clue. You're definitely not in that group :)
September 30, 2009 1:22 AM
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