Thursday, August 20, 2009

I'm a 20SB, but expiring...

I'm a 20 something blogger like most of you, but expiring. Yes, yes... few more months, 1 more new year fireworks and soon after that I won't be a 20 something blogger anymore. Kind of sad, don't you think? Can I still pose as one of you? I mean, you guys are so awsome. The purpose of this post is to thank you all my bloggy friends (as the Demigoddess would name our breed). So I really really wanna thank all of you, who come here recently in larger numbers than I expected.

Thank you.谢谢. Terima kasih. Salamat po. 고마워.

I won't name here all of you, in fear of forgetting someone, but most of you are on my blogroll, most of you follow me on Twitter, Facebook, some even chat with me on MSN. You guys are the best. I have to say it was quite a tough year for me (death in the family, a break up...). It was a year of many changes, mostly negative. But that's slowly changing for the better. Some days I feel like numb, like I don't have the energy to live. But then one of you dear new friends writes something funny or interesting and it makes my day. I am fully aware that we are not (yet) friends in the real world, but I am most confident that we could be. And who knows, maybe we will be one day. I already met one of you this year, Hwan from Korea, who was my Facebook and MSN friend for nearly 2 years and happened to travel thru my small country recently. I had a great time with him and his friends. And I am sure I could have a fun time with some of you, if one day we happen to be somewhere around the same place at the same time. I know that many of you are relatively far from me, most likely from Britain, Malaysia, Singapore, Indonesia, Philippines and Korea and I don't know if I will really travel to all these places, but we never know, do we?
My thoughts came after reading some of your blogs lately and seeing how close some of you've become. I think blogging does connect people. Because all of us feel compelled to say something, share a piece of ourselves with the world, sometimes maybe too much. But I think we never share everything. And that's great. It's the things we don't say that make us who we are.
I have to say I really learned a lot from you guys, as most of you are very accomplished bloggers (and people). It really helped me many times when I needed comfort, advice or a different perspective on things. But sometimes I just need a dose of humour and you guys really provide the best there is. So, while I'm looking forward how you further decompose every aspect of the lives you live to learn more about humankind and its vulnerabilities, I am also anticipating funny stories, full of irony and wit to crack me up in the morning while I'm sipping my coffee. [Sure, if Nashe and Angel would post every day, I could just read their blogs for the crack-ups, but since they don't, the rest has to take over for them from time to time ;-)]
So this is now the final installment of the I love women series :P The next time you hear from me, it has to be something totally unexpected. [No, not a leaked sex-tape, you perv!] I mean something bold, something thought-provoking, something that will change all of your lives forever!!! Ah, I'm just kidding. Expect the usual. And thanks again :)

What is your take on bloggy friends and online friendships shmenships? Have you been blessed with many new friends? Did you experience any disappointments? I'm looking forward to hear from you.

34 KAFKAESQUE COMMENTS:

izso said...

Other than your annoying right click disable - I think the whole blog friendship thing is a little 'shallow'. Sorry! I am not who I am online because I have no fears of being discovered, however since I know there are people whom I see everyday online who come to my blog, I've toned down a lot. It's very apparent from day 1 of my blogging until today.

But you're welcome to give me a buzz if you're ever in Kuala Lumpur Malaysia. I don't bite.

August 20, 2009 7:12 AM  

The Demigoddess said...

I am tempted to say I have more bloggy (online) friends than friends in real life. Sure, I have friends in the real-world and I love all of them but I spend nearly 8 hours on the internet and 12 hours of work. What's left of that is for sleep and time for friends in real life, if any. Although I am already naturally "hilarious", the humor in my blog is different. The emotion on my blog and the extent by which I can express myself and share that to people who read them is different from telling my friends about it in person. Any bloggy friend who takes time to read my blog and share the harangue and craziness of my daily life is a friend indeed. I mean, look at my long posts.

And YOU still read them. Nyahaha. Thanks Nino.You are not just a bloggy friend. I hope you know that.

And before this comment turns into a long blog post, I will end here and say "Thanks for the friendship."

August 20, 2009 7:31 AM  

MKL said...

@izso Other than your annoying right click disable - I think the whole blog friendship thing is a little 'shallow'. Sorry!

I really don't get what you mean. What does the right click disable have to do with this post? -_- Well, for some it's shallow, for some it's deep. To each his own, right? ;-)

August 20, 2009 7:59 AM  

MKL said...

@Demigoddess, awww, so nicely written... I'm somehow like you lately. I connect better with people who may not be living very close to me, but they have similar thinking. We are all Web 2.0 generation, we spend a lot of time online. As for now, I am blogging a lot, but I don't know how it will be in the years to come. I guess it's a phase. But it's fun while it lasts.

Yes, I think many of you became friends for me, especially you, Angel. And I'll always love to go thru your long posts. I really look fwd to every post you write and the longer the better :)

August 20, 2009 8:03 AM  

floreta said...

what a sweet message and sentiment. :) glad i found your blog.. angel rocks!

August 20, 2009 9:12 AM  

Sharon said...

i think my online friends treat me better than real friends *sobs*

August 20, 2009 11:35 AM  

rinaz said...

If you want, you will always be 25 .. hehehe :-)

To me, a lot of online friends can be good friends in real life too because we share something in common. Online media is just one of the many avenues allows oneself to express themselves, so its easier for people with common interest to understand them.

True, sometimes the shelf life of an internet friend is shortlived but that goes the same way in real life too. You need to connect every now and then so you don't just lose touch with the person.

If you do find out that you dont click with the person, hey, I guess its just not meant to be. Move on. But there will always be gems out there, and that you keep.

I've met a couple of wonderful people online whom I find interesting, fascinating. One of my good friends I met online through mirc almost 8 years now. And I've met really interesting people since I started blogging. And hey, I'm married to Cart and we met online! :-P

And now that I'm living overseas in Italy, facebook has been really wonderful in trying to connect and meet new friends. You cant imagine how miserable I felt the first few months in a new country, you dont know anyone, you cant speak the language.

In essence, there are always nice people out there, be it real life or online.

August 20, 2009 11:56 AM  

izso said...

MKL : I don't use the buttons on my browser so I hide the buttons. Without the right click I can't go back unless I use the keyboard backspace key. Hehe.. anyway, that's just me ranting.

The 'shallow' I meant was it'll only get as deep as what words I use on screen. Whats more I get to proofread. In person, what you see and hear is what you get. No censorship.

Kapish? Btw, you're Slovenian? Cool!

August 20, 2009 1:24 PM  

Hwan said...

You know, Cest' la Vie! Every person has his hard days sometimes in his whole life. And, it just happened to you more seriously in this year. I really hope, at the end of this year, you could smile and farewell to 2009. I'm also happy to make a good friend like you. Thanks for everything :)

August 20, 2009 2:01 PM  

MKL said...

@Hwan, yea, thanks a lot. I know that this is life and everything, yet I am human and complain :P
Yes, I'm happy that we met and that we stayed friends almost 2 years. Hope there's much more to come. 고마워 :)

August 20, 2009 4:10 PM  

adamantixx said...

when you hit 30 you'll either go completely crazy or will start to discover the real 'you'...or both, but life in your 30's are a million miles away from your 20's.
online friendships are very special because you get to know the personality before anything else.

August 20, 2009 5:52 PM  

MKL said...

@floreta, thanks thanks! Angel rocks, indeed! :)

August 20, 2009 6:09 PM  

MKL said...

@Sharon, ahh.. I can't imagine anyone treating you bad, be it on- or offline ;-)

August 20, 2009 6:09 PM  

MKL said...

@rinaz, I totally agree with your nice comment. Online is same as offline, because you have people who disappoint you here or in real world. I happened to me and it was a good lesson. I'm wearing my heart on my sleeve, so I guess it's easy for me to get disappointed or on the other hand, become very good friends with many of you. It's a risk, but I'm willing to take it.

August 20, 2009 6:12 PM  

MKL said...

@izso, oh, thanks for explaining and sorry to have problems here... But I need to keep that right-click disabler.. Unless there's really many people who complain :P

Well, as I said above in the post:

It's the things we don't say that make us who we are.

For me, blogs are just the starting point, when you really become friends, you tweet, chat and become FB friends. So u get to know much more things about the person than what you read in the blog.

August 20, 2009 6:20 PM  

MKL said...

@adamantixx, I feel like I will go completely crazy :P I'll keep your thought in mind, though. Thanks.

August 20, 2009 6:21 PM  

Sharon said...

well... well not exactly bad but i found out that there are indeed friends who just want to be around me when they needed me but ignored me when i needed them.. u know what i mean...what's more, they tend to be jealous of what i achieve than to be happy for me... damn right sad.

anyway, over with the sad part, yes i'm glad u got to my blog and getting to know you. keep up the good job and well.. stay young... at heart ^_^

August 20, 2009 6:38 PM  

MKL said...

@Sharon, I guess many of us have the similar experience.. I had a friend who also competed with me in real life, while I hate this kind of stuff. I'm happy for everybody who succeeds and I hope they're happy for me, too. But I am competitious and I can get dragged into this kind of nonsense. But lately I keep pulling the brake and just avoid people like that.

Hey, the honor is completely mine. You are the blog with most posts of all my bloggy friends, I really learned a lot from you. You are good, because I can read your old posts and they still have value. You also... stay young.. at heart ;-)

August 20, 2009 6:42 PM  

Nashe^ said...

I guess everything has been said. I'll humbly return to my Law homework now.

:^)

August 20, 2009 10:52 PM  

MKL said...

@Nash, wahlaueh! Don't close the thread yet. Not everything's been said already :P

August 20, 2009 10:55 PM  

izso said...

The fact that you said "Walaueh" really astonishes me.. I thought that was a Singaporean / Malaysian trait! Haha :D

You're more mysterious every day!

I get your point on the FB thing. Very true. Most of my readers (that I don't know in person) prefer to stay anonymous so I don't make a lotta friends via blog.

August 21, 2009 6:33 AM  

MKL said...

@izso, I stayed in Singapore, Penang and Batu Pahat for all together 9 months, plus I dated a Chinese Malaysian girl, she taught me Manglish. I heard her say 'wah lau eh', was funny to me, I asked her about it and then started to repeat :P

Hoi, now u think ur english veli good izit? Walau eh think angmoh very pandai, cannot speak like ah beng liao la? :P (with help by WenWen)

August 21, 2009 6:40 AM  

vertsignalfire said...

I will soon be calling you "old uncle" leh, hehe. Kidding. Anyways, no matter how old are you, what really matter is how old are you in your soul. How much wisdom and views of life have you absorbed. You are always mature in your thoughts, so doesn't matter how old you are, you will surely still understand us, the young, careless, and helpless people, hihi :P

Anyways, my best wishes always with you, my dear friend ^^

August 22, 2009 9:04 AM  

MKL said...

@Selvy, nooo, not old uncle :P Call me grandpa, haha. Kidding. Thanks for your kind words, I really appreciate. You make me smile already early in the morning :D

August 22, 2009 4:01 PM  

Americanising Desi said...

my online world and my online friends are more real than my real friends and really i have a really good memory!

some just come and go and within a year a lot has happened... within this world and they might think i dont remember them, but whenever i get a chance i pay them a surprise visit though they have stopped visitin me :)

and hey you can stay 20sb :D

August 22, 2009 5:09 PM  

MKL said...

@Americanizing Desi, so I hope you won't forget me, hehe. You have many blogs and followers. You really must have an excellent memory. :)

August 22, 2009 5:19 PM  

ZACL said...

Not sure whether I am commenting on the right post here.

I most fascinated by your reference to us bloggers decomposing. I really do think this image deserves some further defining. I have awful visions of what we will turn into. Help!

August 23, 2009 4:12 AM  

MKL said...

@ZACL, help is on the way. No, help is here. Drop by, I have all the answers :P

August 23, 2009 5:42 AM  

Shingo T said...

Welcome to the club.

Hey, think positive. We are like wine, we taste better with age.

August 25, 2009 10:26 AM  

MKL said...

@Shingo T, Haha.. Ok, 'll keep that in mind :)

August 25, 2009 3:16 PM  

Sush said...

Great post! :)

Ive been lurking on the net haha for years and have made some friends, some even in the real world. :) I do think that blogging connects people especially those who have (like in my case) the same interests. Which is good because I never can find someone who I can talk to about makeup for more than 5 minutes haha.

Thanks for dropping my blog and leaving a comment. What you said cracked me up btw :)

August 25, 2009 9:51 PM  

MKL said...

@Sush, I agree. It connects. Especially recently I came accross some lovely people and became friends. You can join my 'gang', but I guess I will hardly talk about make-up, but we can discuss odd things we do ;)

You must be a funny girl, if my remark made you crack up, hehe.

August 25, 2009 11:20 PM  

birdykins said...

I have met some pretty amazing people so far through blogging and I feel like it's only going to continue that way. It's a pretty crazy thing, to find such likeminded people and strike up these friendships that are never reinforced in real life. I think the thing about blogging is that we are all sharing a part of ourselves with the faceless world, yes, but we are also reaching out for connection.

August 28, 2009 6:46 PM  

MKL said...

birdykins: Yes, I have the same experience. And it's constantly getting more. Once you're in a circle of good bloggers, you get noticed, you feel like one of them. I really have to thank Angel (Demigoddess) and recently Floreta, I found so many nice blogs thru them. I checked the people who also comment. That's how I came accross you, btw :)

August 28, 2009 6:50 PM  


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